Children's increased self-reliance uncovers a novel stage in parenting experience
As the summer sun begins to shine, a change is in the air for one family. The author, a freelancer, and their children are finding themselves enjoying the summer months apart more often than together. This shift, however, doesn't mean a loss of special moments; rather, it signifies a new phase of growth and independence for the teenage children.
Over the years, the author and their children have made cherished summer memories together, from early morning hikes to library visits, wading in streams, and trips to the zoo or museum. But as their children grow older, they are becoming more independent, no longer needing the author to entertain them or drive them around.
This summer, the author's children have made their own plans, each pursuing their own interests. One child is on the hunt for a job, another is taking summer courses at college and working, while another has tickets for a science fiction fan convention. The youngest child even ventured out to the pool without an adult for the first time.
The author, despite the financial struggles that often come with freelancing, has made a conscious effort to balance work and spending time with their children during the summer break. They appreciate the later start times during the summer, providing a moment of respite before diving back into a busy schedule.
Independent summer plans for teenagers can take many forms. They could volunteer at local organisations, engage in creative activities like photography walks or making nature-inspired art, or participate in outdoor challenges like cycling or walking challenges. These activities encourage exploration, creativity, skill development, and social engagement, fostering independence and self-direction.
For instance, a teen might take on a photography project in a new city or set a cycling distance goal to reach over the summer. Or they might volunteer for a local community cause to build responsibility and connection outside school hours.
The author misses the early morning adventures with their children but also appreciates the freedom that comes with this new phase. They look forward to having more time for work, going out with friends, and picking up hobbies in the future as their children grow up.
In the words of the author's husband, this stage is the "golden age of parenting." As the children embark on their own summer journeys, the author reflects on the memories made and looks forward to the adventures yet to come.
What about the family dynamics this summer? Each child is delving into science, health-and-wellness, and lifestyle interests as they independently pursue their activities. For instance, one might be job-seeking, while another is taking summer courses and working, or another is attending a science fiction convention. Simultaneously, the youngest child tries newfound independence at the pool. Meanwhile, the author cherishes the respite from the early mornings and the opportunities to focus more on personal endeavors, like work and hobbies, during this "golden age of parenting."
